I know people aren’t supposed to have sex when they’re drunk or high and stuff, since they can’t consent. But it just seems like one of those things that happens anyways. Is there any safe way to do it? Or is it really just a “don’t do it at all” kind of thing?
This is a really great question, and that’s why I saved it for the beginning of the year! It’s a finicky one with a difficult answer, but I’m going to do my best.
Legally, you cannot consent when intoxicated. This gets blurry when you’re both (or all) incapacitated in some way. It’s best to just abstain from sex when you’re going to drink or smoke or anything of the sort.
However, I’m a big disbeliever in abstinence only education. You’re right, it does still happen, and will still continue to happen! You should still be safe about it. So here are some of my tips for intoxicated sex if and when it happens:
If you try to stick with these tips, odds are you’ll have safer intoxicated sex if you choose to do so. However, it’s always safest to abstain from intoxicated sex. Either way, look out for friends who do choose to have sexual experiences when incapacitated. Make sure they’re safe. Don’t be a bystander.